Energetic New Year begins on January 23, 2020!
The Human Design New Year begins with the Sun moving into Gate 41. This is a time when the 4th quarter is competing and the new 1st quarter is about to begin. The 1st quarter of the new year starts 10 days after the official Energetic New Year when the Sun moves into Gate 13, which will happen on February 3, 2020.
Unfortunately, the traditional New Year’s resolutions that you’ve created in December or early January have been premature. The energy simply wasn’t right yet for manifesting new ideas and projects. So, release your disappointments if your new year resolutions don’t realize or if you have been feeling tired, unmotivated, and unproductive.
Until yesterday, the Sun was in Gate 61 called is the Gate of Mystery and Inner Truth. It was a perfect time to be open to inspiration and experience moments of truth without making any specific commitments or taking actions. It was a great time to open your mind to higher dimensions, to meditate, and to receive divine guidance from God and Universe. This period was ideal for introspection and preparation to receive fresh energy of the upcoming 2020.
MAKING PEACE WITH YOUR PAST
That inner awareness phase has ended on January 17. The purpose of that phrase was to teach us about making peace with our past and accepting ourselves as we are.
When you make peace with your past, you allow it to transform itself. Only when you get real about reality, you begin to see ways to go beyond your perceived limitations and constraints. And when you are able to visualize and align yourself with a brighter future, you know you are on the right path.
When you resist your reality and your past because you have negative fillings associated with it, this energy settles in your body and blocks the natural flow, making your sick and stuck in the past. Resistance to accepting yourself and your past interrupts natural cycles in body and blocks resourcefulness. When you are at peace with your past, your energy and resources become available and, as a result, you feel more energized and uplifted.
So we are given this period between January 17 to 23 to review the 2019 and make peace with ourselves and our past.
Was 2019 was a challenging year for you?
Did you feel unproductive or stuck?
Are you where want to be at this stage of your life?
Our overreactive minds are always dissatisfied with what we have and with who we are. The mind always wants things to be different and change WHO WE ARE. However in order to find peace, we need to learn how to accept WHO WE ARE so we can move forward and begin to receive. The Universal law is to complete one cycle before starting another one.
In order to make this transition, we need to have focus, clarity, and courage. And we cannot have all that when we’re stuck in self-judgment, self-pity, and blame.
When you’re at peace with your current reality, with who you are and what you have accomplished, you bring closure to the passing cycle and make a space in your life to welcome new opportunities that Universe has for you in 2020!
Here’s what I want to share with you my own experience of this period in the hopes that it will help you as well.
FORGIVE AND TRULY LET GO
“When we’ve been treated deeply unfairly by others, we should have the tools to deal with that so the effects of that injustice don’t take hold in an unhealthy way.” ~ Dr. Robert Enright
We all know what it feels like to be hurt by someone. We’ve all felt the pain of betrayal and the hurt of some kind of violation of our truth. Maybe you had a cheating spouse, maybe somebody disowned you, maybe your parents neglected you, maybe your close friend lied to you, or perhaps your peers made fun of you. These events painful then, and thinking of them can be disturbing today.
Everybody has a different reaction to being accused or abused.
The emotions created from mistreatment or abuse are ingrained into our minds and bodies. The reason for the long-lasting effects of trauma is that our brains are wired to create a memory circuit in the brain proportional to the emotional arousal of the painful situation. That is why letting go of emotions such as resentment, jealousy, envy, or rage can be so difficult.
Our brain prefers the world over talk, which is our brain’s inherent tendency to remember things that are emotionally impactful.
Unfortunately, this habit applies to unfavorable events including abuse and trauma. This habit also helps to explain why the emotions associated with abuse, such as depression, hurt, anxiety, fear, loneliness, sadness, or sleeplessness, may be difficult to treat.
While you may not be able to simply “forgive and forget”, you do need to develop skills to learn how to forgive in a way that helps you to move forward. It takes time and determination to learn these skills, but, in the long-term, it worth the efforts
WHY IT’S SO HARD TO FORGIVE
Forgiveness is the most powerful remedy for the pain caused by others.
Forgiveness does not mean that you solely forgive and forget the painful experience. Nor does forgiveness mean that you excuse the person of their actions.
Forgiveness means letting go of the anger (or other charged emotions) and choosing to release the desire to punish someone (or yourself) for an assault.
Forgiveness is a conscious skill that can be learned. However, while we may accept the forgiveness statements mentally, our bodies often have trouble releasing the energy of the trauma.
Why do we have this trouble? Because we are wired to have emotional memories and we rationalize things.
One thing to remember is that you’re responsible for your happiness and peace of mind regardless of what happened to you in the past.
HOW CAN I FORGIVE?
Dr. Robert Enright, a pioneer in the experimental study of forgiveness, suggests this approach to help us learn how to forgive ourselves and others.
1. FORGIVENESS IS POSSIBLE
Before we forgive, we must first recognize that forgiveness is possible. We must, at a minimum, accept the idea that forgiveness is a feasible solution to your problem. If you are not sure, research this topic and find our how forgiveness helps others in moving forward in life.
2. MAKE THE CHOICE
Enright says: “People should not be forced into forgiving… it’s important that people are drawn to it.”
As I mentioned above, learning how to forgive doesn’t require forgetting your past. Understanding the positive influence of forgiveness’ on your emotions and all aspects of your life will allow you to understand how forgiveness works and why it can be a real solution to your problems. This awareness will help you make choices that lead to inspired actions towards freedom from your past.
3. MAKE A LIST
Making a list of everyone, starting back to childhood friends, who have hurt you in some way. After you make that list, prioritize it by ordering the names starting with who has harmed you the most.
Start from forgiving people toward the bottom of the list and make your way up the list.
Take your time to process the emotion. It may take a while and you’ll know when it’s time to move to the next person.
4. EXPRESS YOUR ANGER
Enright says. “How are you doing in terms of your anger? How have you been denying it? Are you angrier than you thought you were? What are the physical consequences of your anger?”
After you examine the effects of your anger, the question you should ask yourself is: ” Am I ready to heal it and let go of it forever?”. If the answer is YES, move to the next step.
After understanding how the effects of your anger have made you miserable, make a commitment to the act of forgiveness. Realize that forgiveness is a conscious choice that you are making that will set you free.
6. UNDERSTAND WHERE THEY COME FROM
Now that you know HOW to forgive, the next step is where the “job” of forgiving starts. This involves thinking about the person with compassion and trying to understand his/her situation. Ask these questions while contemplating the person who hurt you:
- Was he/she hurt in any way?
- If so, did his/her hurt possibly contribute to mine?
Make sure you are breathing deeply during this process – breathing releases stagnant energy from the places in the body where the energy is stagnant and creates more space for fresh energy.
7. ACKNOWLEDGE HIS/HER HUMANITY
They are humans, just like you and me. Humans get confused, make mistake, and sometimes do the wrong things. Have compassion for them.
Enright says: “You were both born, you will both die, you both bleed when you’re cut, you both have unique DNA and when you die there will never be another person like you. And given the humanity that you share with this person, is it possible that they might be just as special, unique, and irreplaceable as you are?”
8. SOFTEN YOUR HEART
Consciously or unconsciously, the other person’s actions have damaged you physically and emotionally and closed your heart. Eventually, if you practice the act of forgiveness, you should begin to feel the healthy release of emotions associated with the traumatic event. It may take several hours or several months. Be patient with yourself.
One day you will wake up and notice that the emotions are no longer there. You will feel lightness in your body and be more optimistic and energized.
9. FEEL YOUR PAIN
It’s natural to feel strong emotional pain when you are doing these practices, but this pain ultimately allows us to move beyond it.
“Pain builds self-esteem because you’re saying, ‘If I can see the humanity in the one who didn’t see the humanity in me, and if I can soften my heart to the one who didn’t to me, then who am I as a person? I’m stronger than I thought.”
Reflection time is required when the pain passes. You begin to realize that being human means experiencing pain, but suffering is optional. Spend some time journaling and reflecting on what you have learned from his experience. “Typically, people are more aware of the wounds in the world… They become more patient with people who might be having a bad day; they see the people are walking around wounded all the time, and they’re generally more aware of others’ pain and want to be a conduit for good,” says Enright.
11. THE NEXT PERSON ON YOUR LIST
Sooner than you think, you’ll have forgiven the people who’ve harmed you in the past. You will release the anger that has been building up inside of you. More importantly, you’ll enjoy a happier, stronger, more fulfilling life.
12. FORGIVE YOURSELF
Forgive yourself for the thing (or things) you did wrong or for those things you didn’t do. Then forgive yourself for being so hard on yourself. Release the judgment and tension stored in your body. Observe and let your go of your self-pushing and self-distractive patterns. Breathe and imagine being at peace with yourself in every area of your life.
13. CREATE YOUR FUTURE
NOW you’re ready to imagine and envision yourself in your new future.
Describe how you’ve perceived yourself in the situations over the past several months at work, with your significant other, with the kids or team, in social situations, and with strangers. Ask yourself this question:
- Is that who I really see myself being in the future?
- How would my future wiser self feel, look and behave in those situations?
Recreate yourself in your mind’s eye. See it, smell it, experience it with all of your senses. This is the space of your deliberate creation.
If you could describe yourself in positive words and phrases that would describe who you are at your best in the future, what would those words be? Why are those words important to you?
Once you find your words, write them down and put them in several places in your home and office so you know who you want to become. Look at them several times per day to remind yourself about your NEW YOU – even on the rough days.
I hope these practical solutions will help you thrive in 2020!
P.S. If you’re not sure what this year holds for YOU, please consider a Personal Human Design Chart Analysis. Or, if you haven’t had one yet, treat yourself to a Partnership Analysis that looks at the compatibility of energy between you and your partner (it can be a spouse, a parent, a child, or a business partner).
Your Free Human Design Chart can be ordered HERE.
Irina Maryanchik, EHH-MA, EEM-CP, PLT, Rev.